Power in relationships can be an incendiary topic whether it is conscious, unconscious, overt or covert. It has a tendency to make people nervous. So, what's with the recent popularity of "Fifty Shades of Gray" and the other two books of its trilogy that tell the story of a young woman who signs on to be the slave of a man several years her senior.
To hear it described by the news media, Fifty Shades of Gray, is either hot mommy porn, or tiresome repetitive porn. Evidently it isn't billed as the best written erotic novel to come down the pike, but it is still selling like hotcakes, so it must be a story with inherent attraction to readers.
Consensual, cooperative allocation of power in relationships with respect to all kinds of issues definitely makes them work better.
Tilting the power in one direction or the other because it turns the participants on apparently can make relationships more interesting and more exciting too. As long as the way it's done has been worked out between the two people in advance, it is safe, sane, and consensual, and it works for them, who else's business is it?
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