Power in Relationships Over 50

I suspect that allocation of power in relationships over 50 is a bigger issue than many people realize. No matter how the equilibrium was for much of its duration, it is likely that this will change dramatically as children leave, work schedules change, and along with it finances.


In spite of the fact that change brings new opportunities, not many of us seem to really like it. Not only don' we like it, we fight it.


Whether it is about having run the homefront as you like and now having a spouse around putting toilet paper rolls on backward or worse, or it is about choosing where and how you'll eat lunch or any of a number of similar freedoms/powers/responsibiities, it is hard not to feel intruded on.


Of course we can and would gain by just stepping up and working these things out,too often we don't. So, what's to be done?


What has worked for you?

A Change of Heart - Save Your Relationship

Ever been in the middle of something and wondered to yourself, 'What am I doing here?'


Relationships can stand a good dose of that every now and then too. What the heck am I doing?


A friend told of hustling around one night putting her kids to bed, brushing teeth, putting laundry in hampers, hurrying the laggards and the pillow fighters, when her youngest asked, "Mommie, did you forget that you love us?"


How many times have I forgotten that I love you? (Don't count. Just remember.) Let a change of heart lead the way to getting more of what you want.

Divorce Is Not The Answer

Using what he calls Psychology of Mind, George Pransky PhD has developed a kind of couples therapy that he says works better than traditional approaches.

In his book Divorce Is Not The Answer: A Change of Heart Will Save Your Marriage he lays out the whole process from underlying beliefs to case examples of how they apply them in their program at Pransky & Associates, in La Conner, WA.

**There are several books with the same title. Find Pransky's. It's different enough and apparently logical enough that it is worth a look.