Emotional Infidelity?

The term "emotional infidelity" implies that one can be emotionally untrue to one's relationship commitments even if physically we remain "clean as a hound's tooth".

Is that true? And even if it is, so what?

Well . . . . . it's clearly a matter of opinion, but I think that, yes, that can happen. And . . . . when we are relating to others in intimate ways, we are either getting closer and deeper or we are drifting apart. There's no standing still. If you don't believe me, read Alice in Wonderland (or Alice's Adventures Underground or whatever the proper title is.)

So, yes it's true. What does it look like?

Some, but not all, of the telltale signs are if you are

• sharing personal things with someone who is not your partner


• AND . . . this sharing is done without the knowledge of your partner


• if it involves telling things about your partner, it is even stronger

If you are meeting someone after work to share problems at home, before the two of you go home, as innocent as it may seem, it has trouble written all over it.

Watch out! Emotional infidelity with or without accompanying physical contact is very dangerous, very hurtful to the left out partner, and very very hard to heal after it has come out. For more on the healing, check out the article HERE.

The first place, best place, (if not necessarily the easiest place), to talk out, work on, consider, handle emotionally charged issues, problems, concerns is with your intimate partner . After that, and only after that, input from other people may be helpful.