Relationship StressOr, Should That Be . . .Relationship Is Stress?

What relationship is not stressful to some degree or another? It has to be. There are two separate beings in it.

While it is common for us to enter relationships to meet our needs, to fill in our perceived gaps, to feel better, we most often forget that the other person is doing exactly the same thing.

The result is stress. The pieces don't fit together and it takes positive intention and attention, to build the union into a new and realistic thing that can accomplish the goals that we have set out for it.

That can be either good or bad. In the best form of the inherent stress we both learn and evolve together. It is supposed to be happening this way. However, in the worst form, when one or both parties to the relationship resist the insights and accommodations and changes that relationship calls for, it can be pretty awful.

The best course of action seems to be to view it as an opportunity and a positive challenge and to go from there. There is a more complete discussion of this at www.better-relationships -over-50.com