Thursday, July 3, 2008
Senior Friends With Benefits?
Is the concept of friends with benefits something that is workable for older folks? It would seem as though being retired with children out and on their own would be a perfect situation to enjoy sex without all the deep entanglements. Hence, "friends with benefits".
But is this so for everyone? for some? for anyone?
Given the responses given on the study of elderly sexual behavior published in the New England Journal of Medicine, August 2007, it doesn't seem to me that casual sex is likely to be for very many people in the over 50 set.
Why do I say that? Well, mostly based on the consistent broadening of just what the term "sex" covers to include more cuddling and quiet time together sometimes in addition to and also instead of coitus.
DISCLAIMER: I do have an ax to grind here and that is the belief that sex and everything else is better within the context of a rewarding relationship.
What do you think?
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Yes, sure, "sex and everything else is better within the context of a rewarding relationship," but what about people who don't happen to be in a love relationship and don't find a potential partner? (I hear this so much from my readers!)
I think if the person is comfortable being in a relationship with a sex buddy when there's no love relationship on the horizon, it's absolutely okay, whatever the age. Of course it works better when the people *like* each other when they're vertical as well as horizontal....
Joan Price
author of Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty (http://www.joanprice.com/BetterThanExpected.htm)
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