Caught? Want to Come Back? (reasons for infidelity are no help)

Sorry guys. If you want to keep your primary relationship and you've been caught in an affair, you'd best say you're sorry and go from there.

At least that's what Dr. Marie H. Browne says according to an article on infidelity, adultery, cheating, messing around, etc in the NY Times that you can access here.

What you do if you want back and you're not really sorry for whatever reason was not discussed in the article. I think that's the one I really want to read.

They did point out that saying "Well, you won't ______________. What do you expect?" Won't cut it.

In a committee of two where you can't decide on a conflict by voting, where do you go in the next step, especially if __________________ is really important to you?

Some places to start are spelled out on my website, www.better-relationships-over-50.com, but truly creative loving solutions to these dilemmas seem to have some spark that uses techniques, effective beliefs and all that and then goes further.

Any insights into the "further" part?