Why Mindfulness In Relationships?

Conscious mindfulness in any of its many forms is a very attractive way to support, nurture, and build relationships.

This may seem kind of funny when you first think about it since it doesn't involve anything in particular about what we should or shouldn't do, what we should or shouldn't feel. It doesn't speak directly to any of that.

Rather, it focuses on how we relate to our own inner experience and our experience of the world around us. As best I can tell, the idea is that when we get that clear and straight we naturally find our own best ways to be with each other.

An attractive thing about the mindfulness approach to relationships is that while it probably will end up including the wisdom of the ages, the common sense, and the best practices as we act from our mindful perspective, I don't have to try to remember rules, skills, and the like.

That's good because no matter how good such things are, no matter how right they are, where are they when you need them. I don't know where they go in the heat of need, but I do know for sure that they go somewhere. Hence the old observation that when you need your communication, listening, and stress management skills the most, you're the least likely to actually be able to use them.

Mindfulness. Check it out. A number of workable approaches exist. You will probably be able to find one that feels right for you.