How To Have An Affair?

Want to know all the ins and outs of how to have an affair? Just ask the magic internet.

Of Course there are websites on how to have an affair! Why not? Afterall, it's not kinky sex, drugs, or firearms, so let's put it up there and see how much money we can make.

On second thought, it very well could be kinky sex, drugs, or firearms if you give it enough time.

Holding the belief that solid, exciting relationships are among the best things in this life, especially as we get older, I can't really tell who's the crazy one here : me, the people who put these sites up, or their readers. Maybe everyone. Maybe no one.

Who knows, but it seems pretty crazy to me.

Coping With Infidelity

Infidelity happens . . . a lot (if published statistics can be trusted.)

Even if you cut the estimates that are thrown about in half, it's still a lot. Too much for something that is so corrosive to everyone involved.

So, once you know it has happened, how do you cope? You do have to cope whether--

• it is still going on right now
• it has just ended
• it was 23 years ago and it never quite goes away.

There is quite good information on the things you have to accomplish to cope with infidelity.

The problem that I see is that even when you have determined what you need to do, you still are left with how to do it.

And, the "how to" part is the sticking point. Each of us steps into these emotionally charged situations with our own baggage (our own history, our own beliefs, and our own type of social support.) That means that while knowing that we have to accomplish "a", "b", and "c" to come out the other side back on our feet, reasonably sane, the actual path that we walk in doing it has to be fit to us.

One size does not fit all.