Internet Marketing and Relationships

There is a video floating around the web of a guy named Frank Kern bringing a crowd of internet marketers to their feet in a presentation where he says that you have to know yourself and know your market at deep inner levels and then have everything you do be congruent as you move forward to sell stuff. Or words to that effect. I wasn't there and I only saw a clip.

An interesting concept - perhaps as interesting in its "no!?! duh!!" nature as it is in its importance and relevance. I have come to believe that just about anything we hear or discover about human nature should be "no, duh" when we think about it. After all, it is us that is the subject of observation and discussion. We may not have thought about it that way, but we shouldn't be too surprised when we hear something that is right about something like this.

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YES. . . . To do anything well, we had better be coming from a genuine place in ourselves and interacting with others as they really are. The trouble is that when we get right down to it, how many of us are really at home with who we really are? How much of our energy is directed toward being "better"? Who would have the real us?

As my son was told at 2 by an "uncle" when he tore open the "Pat the Bunny" book to get to the real bunny and only found a square of fake fur glued to the cardboard,
"Take it from your Uncle Frank, don't take the clothes off the lady."

What kind of world would we have if we didn't collude with each other in not "taking the clothes off the lady" as uncle Frank so indelicately put it? It goes both ways. He might have added " . . . and don't look behind the 'nice-man' mask" or some such too.

Hmm.

So how can we collude with each other in different ways that have the capacity to lead to those deep connections that the man says sell lots of stuff for the purpose of just being toether in ways that feel good and make us all more fulfilled?

I don't know, but I have been putting a good bit of thought into it and you can see some of the early results at www.better-relationships-over-50.com

Stressed Out? Need A Mind-Body Tune Up?

Feeling stressed out and wondering if somehow your mind and body have forgotten how to work together? There are as many symptoms and signs of this going on as there are people and lines of text to describe them. It's real stuff.

True, there are some pretty neat tricks out there for turning this around, but of course the question quickly becomes one of whether the particular approach fits you and you are able to follow it.

For the committed (or desperate?) you can find things that really do have to capacity to give you positive results whether you are stressed out by:



anxiety/panic/nerves -->>Click Here! If you're in hurry, short on time, or just want to get on with it, these guys have pulled together a tremendous amount of information that can be extremely helpful.


high blood pressure-->>Click Here! This fellow's creating a CD that can use the same scietific principles used in the fancy biofeedback instruments that cost hundreds of dollars is pretty cool in and of itself. Very interesting information on his page.

or relationships -->> Click Here! The information here takes off from the observations of J. Gottman, PhD and George Pransky, PhD on what really makes marriages work and what makes marriage counseling work. HINT: It is NOT communicating better.


Also, I picked these three because their their sales pages are educational and helpful whether you decide to buy their products or not.


It isn't really an issue of whether the program works or not, but rather one of can you and I work the program. The big secret, if there is one, lies in that. How do we do what we can and find some peace with what we can't? Hmmmm.

Any thoughts? stories? successes? ideas of what's really needed here?

Who "Sits On"Solutions to ProblemsThat Can't Be Patented?

Ever wonder how simple things that can make life better but can't be patented, trademarked, copyrighted, boxed up and sold just seem to fade away?

I have. And, I have come to believe that it is NOT actually a conspiracy by the drug companies, food conglomerates, and the oil companies. It might as well be, but it isn't really.

For example, while poking around in the stacks at the University of Washington Medical School Library a few years ago I came across a process for lessening or even eliminating migraine headaches that not only used no drugs, but had a success rate that equalled that of more complicated behavioral programs like biofeedback or the drugs that were available at the time.

I had never heard of it, and I was certified in biofeedback at the time and thought I was using the best technique available.

Was it a fluke? Apparently not. I found another paper that sought to duplicate the previously reported results and it did! Now this was significant on two counts. First, it isn't that common that an unheralded finding is subjected to another study to see if it really got it right. And, second, it supported the previous findings and was generally ignored too!

Migraines are a terrible thing to live with. Biofeedback is expensive and time consuming. The drugs are expensive and tricky to use right.

So, what's the deal? I don't know, but if I were subject to migraine headaches I would want to be able to give this simple procedure a try (if I could ever find the articles again, but that's another story.)

Power in Relationships

How we allocate the power in our relationships is one of the central factors in how well those relationships work.

The power to decide what we'll do, how we'll do it, and who will do it, can be parcelled out in an almost infinite number of ways, but couples who get along and prosper generally feel good about how they do it.

Now, this is not to say that any particular mix works best. No, totally egalitarian/shared relationships, traditional male head of family, or any other particular style does not win out. What does is having they participants comfortable with the way they do it.

So, especially in this time of so many changes with retirements, grandchildren, etc, we need to reconsider this from time to time.

When you decide it's time to do this a structured approach can keep you focus on the issues and off the people. The best one I have come across can be found HERE.