What do you do if your spouse says they want a separation? that they want to move out? that they don't love you any more? that they aren't sure they ever did?
Whew! And you're thinking "I must have missed that chapter when I read the book. What the heck do you do?"
For an interesting and inspiring story of what one woman (and eventually one couple did,) check out this New York Times article on a separation. Note carefully that the well meaning advice of family and friends was NOT what led to the positive outcome!
One thing that is clear is that the author of the article had a solid set of beliefs about relationships, people, and her relationship. Whether on purpose, by osmosis, or just luck, something kept her on an even keel through the storm.
When we are over-50, relationships have their fair share of baggage. This can be stabilizing or de-stabilizing. From this article I get the sense that it is clearly possible to make the time and shared experiences our allies when the relationship "boat" gets tippy.
Wednesday, August 5, 2009
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