Are Relationships Just a Chick Thing?

Looking at data on who goes to which sites on the internet, an interesting and not really surprising thing pops up in the over 55 age group.

If you start with people who visit popular sites that deal with relationships and see what else they are likely to look at, there is a strong split between men and women. The women tend to head for other sites about family, relationships, and investments. The mean tend go next to sites on cars, investments, and porn.

Not surprising perhaps, but what does it say about the chances for great relationships occurring between those men and women? Isn't there a song that says something about reading the news and it's all been bad?

Am I missing something here? Or, is the "war between men and women" satirized by James Thurber just dragging on?

Great Movie: Unknown White Male

Saw a great movie. A documentary from Netflix called Unknown White Male.


It is the story of a man who lost his memory at age 30 and how his life proceeds for the next couple of years from there.


There are some incredible demonstrations of just how much we live a story of our lives rather than just living our lives. The parts we are given, the parts we take on in the "play" take over.


What if we were to just lose the script and had to live each day as it came to us?


This movie comes as close to showing what that might be like as without having to experience it ourselves.


Or, if we're really into being present for each moment with what has been described as continued freshness of appreciation, perhaps it would be more accurate to say "able to experience it."


Certainly would pump some new life into our relationships.

Aging and Relationships

Healthy, happy aging and relationships go together. In a way it makes sense. I mean if we let ourselves become old grouches that probably doesn't do much either for us or for those around us.


The best observable evidence of the aging<->relationships connection (after just looking around ) was provided by some long term studies that began in the late 1930's and have followed the subjects ever since. You can read more about the Study of Adult Behavior at the Harvard Medical School by Dr. Vaillant HERE.


Truthfully, I can't see how one can tell for sure whether the "stable relationships" that the researchers found in people who lived the longest and the healthiest were causative, where the effect of one of the other variables, or even whether staying with the same person for a long time is in and of itself a good goal.


Still, relationships were definitely in there and on that alone it is worth a look and some attention.