Relationship StressOr, Should That Be . . .Relationship Is Stress?

What relationship is not stressful to some degree or another? It has to be. There are two separate beings in it.

While it is common for us to enter relationships to meet our needs, to fill in our perceived gaps, to feel better, we most often forget that the other person is doing exactly the same thing.

The result is stress. The pieces don't fit together and it takes positive intention and attention, to build the union into a new and realistic thing that can accomplish the goals that we have set out for it.

That can be either good or bad. In the best form of the inherent stress we both learn and evolve together. It is supposed to be happening this way. However, in the worst form, when one or both parties to the relationship resist the insights and accommodations and changes that relationship calls for, it can be pretty awful.

The best course of action seems to be to view it as an opportunity and a positive challenge and to go from there. There is a more complete discussion of this at www.better-relationships -over-50.com

Stressed Out? Need A Mind-Body Tune Up?

Feeling stressed out and wondering if somehow your mind and body have forgotten how to work together? There are as many symptoms and signs of this going on as there are people and lines of text to describe them. It's real stuff.

True, there are some pretty neat tricks out there for turning this around, but of course the question quickly becomes one of whether the particular approach fits you and you are able to follow it.

For the committed (or desperate?) you can find things that really do have to capacity to give you positive results whether you are stressed out by:



anxiety/panic/nerves -->>Click Here! If you're in hurry, short on time, or just want to get on with it, these guys have pulled together a tremendous amount of information that can be extremely helpful.


high blood pressure-->>Click Here! This fellow's creating a CD that can use the same scietific principles used in the fancy biofeedback instruments that cost hundreds of dollars is pretty cool in and of itself. Very interesting information on his page.

or relationships -->> Click Here! The information here takes off from the observations of J. Gottman, PhD and George Pransky, PhD on what really makes marriages work and what makes marriage counseling work. HINT: It is NOT communicating better.


Also, I picked these three because their their sales pages are educational and helpful whether you decide to buy their products or not.


It isn't really an issue of whether the program works or not, but rather one of can you and I work the program. The big secret, if there is one, lies in that. How do we do what we can and find some peace with what we can't? Hmmmm.

Any thoughts? stories? successes? ideas of what's really needed here?

Affairs Leave One Partner With PTSD?

It's been reported that people whose partners have an affair often show emotional responses similar to the post-traumatic stress disorder (ptsd) symptoms of people who have been through fires, wars, assaults, etc.

The less they saw it coming, the worse the reaction.

So, with all the affairs that apparently are going on, maybe we have a whole group of survivors that is largely unrecognized as such.

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In my limited experience, partners who have strayed and want to get back have a pretty high level of ongoing stress themselves, but that's another topic.

Seems as though the whole thing is a bad deal.