That relationships have such incredible potential for good stuff only makes it all the more galling that their incredible potential for going all wrong is in there too. It's a highly charged situation.
It reminds me a lot of an adventure story in which the main character is trying to find his way into the center of ancient temple where all the gold is and he faces one puzzle after another that he must solve to move forward. The genius behind setting up the series of puzzles usually knows full well what the seeker is most likely to do. Therefore, that course of action is almost always the wrong choice. Except when it isn't.
That makes for a cool adventure story. Therefore, finding our way through all the inter- and intrapersonal puzzles of building great relationships must be an adventure too. Funny, I've never thought of it that way before.
In fact, it may go the adventurer one better, because the "secrets" aren't secret at all. The real secrets lie in how to actually carry out the "secret steps" to reach the treasure. And even THAT code has been left lying around in plain sight for centuries, along with some really slick decoys.
High on the list of fakeouts must be our ideas of masculinity, femininity, of what we're entitled to, and of what's "the right way".
As best I can tell at this point, accessing that level of secret requires diligent following of some form of focusing meditative practice. That's because the real secret to unlocking the treasure of relationship is hidden within each of us and each of us has our own best way of finding it. Others can help, but in the end it is to be found on an inward journey through our own particular territory.
There are lots of excellent tools to help in this; which one is right for each of us cannot be determined by someone else. However, the treasure is there and it is worth the trip.
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